My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching. Bind them on your heart always; tie them around your neck.
Recently I said those words to a group of several hundred
people: "It is never, ever, ever, right to be angry with God." As I
looked out on the people there was an incredulous look on many
faces. This was not landing well. Clearly many did not agree. This
was confirmed in a question-and-answer time, when one person asked
from a microphone, "Would you say something more about not being
angry with God? Did you mean to say that it is never right to be
angry with God?"
My answer was, "Yes, that is what I said. But perhaps you are
stumbling over something you think I said which I didn't say. So
let me add this: If you are angry with God, it is never right not
to tell him so." This made some people scratch their heads again
and look more puzzled. It puzzled me that they were puzzled. So I
said it again another way: "If you are sinning by being angry with
God, don't compound the sin by hypocrisy." The perplexity stayed on
many faces. So I said it again: "If you sin by being angry with
God, don't add to it the sin of trying to conceal it from him. That
would double the offense."
Some were obviously tracking with me, but others looked baffled.
At that point, I left it and went on to another question. But I
have been thinking about those baffled looks ever since. Why was
this so difficult to grasp? What assumptions were out there that
made two simple statements so baffling. "It's never right to be
angry with God." And: "It's never right to hide your anger from
him, if you feel it." To me nothing could be more obvious. Why is
this so non-controversial to me and so baffling to some others?
Here are two possible assumptions that may be common in many
heads today, which would make them balk at what I said.
First, many assume that feelings are not right or wrong, they
are neutral. So to say that anger (whether at God or anybody else)
is "not right" is like saying sneezing is not right. You just don't
apply the labels right and wrong to sneezing. It just happens to
you. That is the way many people think about feelings: they just
happen to you. Therefore, they are not moral or immoral; they are
neutral. So for me to say that it is never right to be angry with
God is to put the feeling of anger in a category where it doesn't
belong, the category of morality.
This kind of thinking about feelings is one of the reasons there
is so much shallow Christianity. We think the only things that have
moral significance in the world are acts of volition. And we think
feelings like desire and delight and frustration and anger are not
acts of volition, but waves that break on the shore of our souls
with no moral significance. Small wonder that many people do not
earnestly seek to be transformed at the level of feelings, but only
of "choices." That makes for a very superficial saint (at
best).
This assumption is contrary to what the Bible teaches. In the
Bible, many feelings are treated as morally good and many as
morally bad. What makes them good or bad is how they relate to God.
If they show that God is true and valuable, they are good, and if
they suggest that God is false or foolish or evil, they are bad.
For example, delight in the Lord is not neutral, it is commanded
(Psalm 37:4). Therefore it is good. But to "take pleasure in
wickedness" is wrong (2 Thessalonians 2:12), because it signifies
that sin is more desirable than God, which is not true.
It's the same with anger. Anger at sin is good (Mark 3:5), but
anger at goodness is sin. That is why it is never right to be angry
with God. He is always and only good, no matter how strange and
painful his ways with us. Anger toward God signifies that he is bad
or weak or cruel or foolish. None of those is true, and all of them
dishonor him. Therefore it is never right to be angry at God. When
Jonah and Job were angry with God, Jonah was rebuked by God (Jonah
4:9) and Job repented in dust and ashes (Job 42:6).
The second assumption that may cause people to stumble over the
statement that it is never right to be angry with God is the
assumption that God really does things that ought to make us angry.
But, as painful as his providence can be, we should trust that he
is good, not get angry with him. That would be like getting angry
at the surgeon who cuts us. It might be right if the surgeon slips
and makes a mistake. But God never slips.
So I say it again: It is never right to be angry with God. But
if you sin in this way, don't compound it by hypocrisy. Tell him
the truth and repent.
Pastor John
