Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
The answer is not simple. Some Biblical texts seem to say no.
For example, Jesus warned us: "Woe to you when all men speak
well of you" (Luke 6:26). And his own enemies saw in him an
indifference to what others thought: "Teacher, we know that you are
true, and care for no man; for you do not regard the position of
men but truly teach the way of God" (Mark 12:14). Paul said that if
he tried to please men he would no longer be a servant of Christ:
"Am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to
please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a
bond-servant of Christ" (Galatians 1:10). "As we have been approved
by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not as
pleasing men, but God who examines our hearts" (1 Thessalonians
On the other hand, Proverbs 22:1 says, "A good name is to be
more desired than great wealth, favor is better than silver and
gold." And Paul was vigilant that he not be discredited in his
handling of money for the poor: "[We are] taking precaution so that
no one will discredit us in our administration of this generous
gift; for we have regard for what is honorable, not only in the
sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of men" (2 Corinthians
8:20-21). It mattered what men thought. He taught the Roman church,
"Now we who are strong ought . . . not just please ourselves. Each
of us is to please his neighbor for his good, to his edification"
(Romans 15:1-2). And he taught that one of the qualifications for
elders is that they must be "above reproach" (1 Timothy 3:2),
including among unbelievers: "He must have a good reputation with
those outside the church, so that he will not fall into reproach
and the snare of the devil" (1 Timothy 3:7).
Similarly Peter charged us to care about what outsiders thought:
"Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the
thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of
your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of
visitation" (1 Peter 2:12).
Question: How is the tension between these two groups of
passages to be resolved? Answer: By realizing that our aim in life
is for "Christ to be magnified in our bodies whether by life or by
death" (Philippians 1:19-20). In other words, with Paul, we do care
- really care - about what others think of Christ. Their salvation
hangs on what they think of Christ. And our lives are to display
his truth and beauty. So we must care what others think of us as
representative of Christ. Love demands it.
But notice where the accent falls: not on our value or our
excellence or our virtue or our power and wisdom. It falls on
whether Christ is honored by the way people think of us. Does
Christ look great because of the way we live? It matters to us
whether he does.
Again notice a crucial distinction: the litmus test of our
faithfully displaying the truth and beauty of Christ in our lives
is not the opinion of others. We want them to see Christ in us and
love him (and thus incidentally approve of us). But we know they
may be blind to Christ and resistant to Christ. So they may think
of us just what they thought of him. "If they have called the head
of the house Beelzebul, how much more will they malign the members
of his household!" (Matthew 10:25). Jesus wanted men to admire him
and trust him. But he did not change who he was in order to win
their approval. Nor can we.
Yes, we want people to see us with approval when we are
displaying that Jesus is infinitely valuable to us, but we dare not
make the opinion of others the measure of our faithfulness. They
may be blind and resistant to truth. Then the reproach we bear is
no sign of our unfaithfulness or lack of love.
May God give us wisdom and love and courage to please and not to
please as we hold fast to Christ our treasure.